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A lover who never hesitates to be a long-lasting lover.
People who want a satisfactory and stable relationship must find a lover who overcomes conflicts well.
A study found that conflict recovers quickly when one side is a person who quickly shakes off after two people argue.
Researchers, including Dr. Jessica Salvatore of the University of Minnesota School of Education, surveyed 73 young adults and their lovers on how to overcome and find composure after a quarrel, and found that they overcame the conflict well and the relationship lasted for a long time.
What is interesting is that only one side of the relationship needs to be a conflict resolution type, and neither of them needs to be able to overcome the conflict well.
As a result of the investigation, even if there is a conflict, those who overcome it well did not leave any resentment in the relationship after arguing.
Conflict-resolving partners thought of different kinds of work separately from the conflict between the two, even if the conflict that determines the way babies are raised and the situation where they have to push each other is similar.
In addition, the actions of conflict-solving lovers led not only to lovers but also to relationships with everyone.
"For decades, research on marriage has focused on what has happened to the conflict process," Dr. Salvatore said. "This study turned its attention to the conflict after it ended."
He also said, "A partner who overcomes conflict well does not leave the resentment left by the conflict intact or pass it on to other relationships."
The researchers said, "This study will have important implications for marriage counselors or lovers who are concerned about relationships."
On the other hand, this study also shows that love received in infancy affects the ability to overcome conflict.
Dr. Salvatore explained, "If there is someone who listens to and takes care of their emotional needs when they are young, they overcome the conflict better after 20 years."
However, even if you didn't receive much affection when you were young, you don't have a chance.
Dr. Salvatore added, "Even those who are not affectionate because they are young can continue their relationship for a long time if they meet a lover who overcomes the conflict well."
The results of this study were published at the top of Psychological Science, and Eurekalert, a U.S. scientific paper introduction site, reported on the 11th.
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